Chaos and irregularities in our business and social lives can sometimes put us in difficult situations mentally, and negative or nerve-wracking situations can be a drain on our confidence and self-esteem.
When we look at people with high self-confidence, their trick is to leave their inner judgments aside and focus on what they can be, but how do they do that?
The main reason for this is the issue of self-confidence, which can carry you in either direction, just like the steps of a ladder.
Every person in life has basic self-confidence and self-esteem. However, this level of self-confidence varies from person to person.
How To Cultivate Self Confidence
Self-confidence emerges when supported by the right motivational techniques and basic motivations such as self-love, gratitude, and self-compassion. Self-confident people are very successful in both their business and social lives and are people around them are drawn in.
The basis of this appreciation is actually living by a basic set of dynamics of life. Experts talk about a number of practices that you can do when you first start the day and before going to bed at night so that you can increase your self-confidence and self-esteem throughout the day or while you sleep.
This is because by nature, when we first wake up, the mind is in a confused state for a while, which can trigger anxiety. Before you go to sleep at night, you may have problems falling asleep due to overthinking, or a sleep isorder, or anxiety. All this can be overcome with short daily self-confidence practice.
10 Minutes After You Wake Up
According to research, your mind continues to work very actively during sleep. In particular, the subconscious comes to the surface during sleep, and reveals a lot of information and imagery that can put you in various emotional states when you wake up.
In an interview, the famous chess prodigy Josh Waitzkin shares some information about how he uses his brain most efficiently when he wakes up:
Instead of checking his phone or mailbox, Waitzkin goes to a quiet place and meditates for a short while, unlike most people, right after waking up.
He also keeps a diary after meditation and takes notes on how to use the first hours of the day in the most efficient way.
Making a habit of writing and creating a space to focus on himself in order to free his mind from the confusion after waking up, Waitzkin goal is to feed his mind with positive affirmations, gratitude, love, and self-compassion.
What Waitzkin is trying to express here is that if you don't give your mind a space to roam freely and you take an action at the moment where you will be actively involved.
Instead of experiencing a short-term transition from sleep to wake in a confusing way, you can use the foggyness to instil confidence and positivity.
When you first start your day, try using motivational sentences when writing things about yourself quotes that will inspire you and how your day will go.
● What do you want to achieve today?
● How do you want to dress?
● How should your social interaction be?
● What will be your focus today?
● What should be the order of your work?
From the moment you start the day, have no doubts that you will be successful and make the necessary preparations.
Fortune favours the prepared, right?
Positivity Can Be Practiced
According to experts, staying positive and using motivating language while standing in front of the mirror for 10 minutes every day increases your self-confidence and raises your mood.
You reinforce these positive feelings by visualizing success within yourself. Your brain chemistry will be shaped accordingly and you will feel more dynamic, more energetic, and more focused.
This is a kind of peak state that you have created in your subconscious. The purpose of this is to stay in the moment completely free from negativity and to fully accept that things do happen in life, but you are strong enough to overcome them.
10 Minutes Before Going to Sleep
Just like when you start the day, mentally prepare yourself for ‘shutting down’ before sleep by taking note of what you did that day before going to bed at night.
You can write down the things you think you did wrong during the day, the behaviours that felt right to you, or the situations in which you were in dilemma in the notebook.
The best part of keeping a diary is that you visualize the thoughts running through your mind by writing them down. This allows you to review your thoughts in a more logical way, allowing you to reach some conclusions without judging yourself.
This method also prevents overthinking while you are trying to get to sleep as you have dealt with the days issues mentally before going to bed.
Half Full or Half Empty?
According to the former president of the American Psychological Association, Dr. Martin Seligman, there are some fundamental differences between optimistic and pessimistic people.
People who tend to look at life from the negative side (Pessimists) see the events that happen to them as a part of their identity and think that they cannot change their attitudes towards these events.
On the other hand optimistic people, are aware that events depend entirely on circumstances and conditions and can be changed with effort, and many things are left to chance.
The most important thing in keeping a diary is to try to figure out how to solve the problems you encounter during the day.
Making negative judgments about yourself will lower your self-confidence even more. For this reason, you should look at the positive aspects of situations, regardless of the circumstances.
In short, aim to do one thing a day that will make tomorrow easier. Wash the pots before you go to bed so you wake up to a clean kitchen. Set out your work clothes the night before. Respond to urgent matters before the close of the day so you don’t have to worry
about them tomorrow.
Big or small, a little bit of prep can help boost your mood and improve your confidence.